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Different styles of collecting and respecting thatDifferent styles of collecting and respecting thatDiary

Chloe-tsundereChloe-tsundere9 dias atrás
Lately I've seen a trend of people judging one another for their way of thinking and collecting. And i just wonder, why would one or the other be better? Can't we all appreciate each other's way of thinking and collect the way we like and have fun discussions about it?

Like when someone is a minimalist but you are not, that doesn't mean they must have no hobby's or interests and be a boring person. (filling in for that person)
Instead why can't we have a dialogue about why they collect this way and what drives them to do it? You'd be surprised about how fun they may be. And maybe you will even start to feel something positive about it.

You look at another collector and think wow that is sooo much and overwhelming and cluttered. Instead of judging, why not have a respectful dialogue. Give your opinion on it and leave it at that, don't try to change them. Instead why not appreciate the other collector? It's not your room but theirs. I find it refreshing on what makes said person happy with what I find too cluttered or empty etc.
Sure if they end up thinking about what I said as my opinion and perhaps change their style of collecting, that's no problem. But not my mission to tell them to do so. Interaction is fun and many ways to collect and enjoy.

Sfw or nsfw, or both. Plenty of styles and flavors :) with different reasons.

Be kind to one another. Try to get the vibe that we all enjoy and love collecting or anime/game etc related items in our own way. Spread kindness <3

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I wonder, what collection style do you have and has it changed over the years perhaps? Did you encounter a different type of collector that made you think oh there's something to that, it looks soothing etc :) whatever emotion you felt.

I know I have changed over the years in my own way. My collection used to be cluttered but with themes. I used to have a lot of tsunderes and later ecchi or nsfw stuff. Then I started to have detolfs and realise shelves can't be stuffed too full. So I rearranged and had a special Louise corner and tsundere wonders. Over the years I now reached a point where I want less closets filled and just max 5 items on a shelf depending on the size. And only 10 nsfw ones.
For me the change started with Marie kondo and having a new boyfriend who gave me other interests and insights as well, which I wanted to show stuff we both love instead of anime only :) it made me think if I needed all I had anyways and decided my top characters are good enough and all louises stay. My goal is 80 and eventually 50 prepainted figs ex amiibos :) (disclaimer: in no way did he ever force me to do this! It was my own decision :))
I started to support my other interest which is diving and art. Art doesn't mean figs only but also digital arts and paintings etc :) and soon I will combine some parts of that, but that will be another blog hehe

Hope you enjoyed the read. These are just my thoughts about this, by no means do I want to force people or make them feel uncomfortable :) maybe you will just think about it all and we all stay happy in these times.
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Chloe-tsundere The louise otaku
ProbablyANinja8 dias atrás#103977572Glad to see someone else who's fine with other people having different preferences and opinions. :)
It takes all kinds, as they say.
I've always been of the philosophy that negative comments aimed at someone's preferences are useless because: 1) if somebody truly enjoys something, they won't let someone else's opinion change that. I mean, who, after being deliberately insulted, decides to change their interests? lol 2) Opinions are not facts, so they can't necessarily be right or wrong (only a fact can). What you do with those opinions can potentially be right or wrong though. 3) The world would be boring as heck if we were all the same. 4) Having a different opinion than someone doesn't make you enemies. It just means you have a different opinion.
My best friend who I've know for almost 30 years has different political views than me on a lot of controversial topics. We talk about politics sometimes, but we never fight about it. His friendship is more valuable to me than being "right" in a discussion. I also think that it's good to have a circle of friends with diverse beliefs. That way you don't get too focused on one way of doing things.
Supporting diversity is not the censorship, banning, or punishing of those different than you. It's the willingness to accept that some people have different beliefs and practices than you, and that's totally OK. It's the ability to agree to disagree.


Ofcourse, i dont think thats more than normal. But lately it seems the norm is the other way around sadly.
Hmm well actually for point 1, some people may take offense and feel negative about the item after hurtful comments. I dont see the good side of that as you took away someone elses enjoyment. Or the opposite indeed, it only sparks the joy even more. I see lots of haters on louise and instead of enjoying her less however i made a blog to give some insight on why. Doesnt mean people will end up koving her, but perhaps understand ^^
As for point 2 indeed opinions are very personal. Just cause you see it like that, doesnt mean it IS that. Ask and ask :) and you will find out the why. But it will still be your opinion.
3. Totally with you on that, i find it fun to see for example close friends collections eventhough i totally dont want those items she has. But i love seeing that spark in her and how she displays then proudly ^^
4. My (ex) best friend was like that. I say ex cause sadly she rarely contacts me anymore (but not due to not sharing the same ideas) she didnt like tsunderes at all and especially not louise. But she never disrespected me in any way and she even asked me why i like her cause shes so abusive etc (i personally think differently here but that aside, if you dont see her reasonings or read the light novels and background i do get it) and it never really bothered me. We stayed besties for many years ^^ actually i find different opinions and views refreshing. Like my boyfriend, he isnt an anime fan (tho did watch some and loved some too and joins me on cons) its interesting on how he sees things as an ‘outsider’ and i never loved him less for it either as long se he never forced me to not collect or such ;)

Julia1258 dias atrás#103975191Feels like there is way too much negativity everywhere you look nowadays, true that it’d definitely be easier if everyone wasn’t so judgmental towards one another. I think most people forget all the backgrounds of what they initially see online; everyone has different incomes, spaces, living situations, interests, aesthetics, etc. It’d be boring if everyone collected the same thing in the same way so diversity is something that people often take for granted I think.
You’re 100% allowed to not like another’s collection, or way of collecting, or whatever, but it doesn’t mean you need to be sour about it; expressing an opinion and being mean/bullying are definitely different. Collections reflect people’s interests and personalities in a way, so it’s natural that everyone’s is different from each other’s. People telling each other their way of collecting is wrong or that there’s something wrong with them for any reason is just immature, petty, and wrong in itself. May be a surprise to some people that anyone can collect however and whatever they want to.


Exactly, there are different nicer ways to express yourself. No need to go eww or you must be this or that. Instead say hmm its not my cup of yea but im glad you enjoy it for example. And leave that person be. Or in case of this site just scroll on ;) no harm done and no one forced you to look at their collection or collect the same way after all. Totally agree on all points there :) different backgrounds, different views and all makes it so much more fun and colors the world :)
Collections tell a story and indeed represents their personality in a way :)
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Chloe-tsundere7 dias atrás#104010531
Hmm.. depends yeah if youre looking for the same types its best to join a certain club yes but if you do like the diversity (like me) thats a reason to stick around. :) i like seeing different collections while not wanting the same. It inspires me on what not to do or what to aim for or maybe change or maybe not haha.


Oh yeah i fully agree that if you want to widen your interest or are just interested why they collect X. But i meant more those people who know about their self that they just go argue why this person has too many figure or too much pink etc. Those kind of people who dont have an open mind and judge people should rather stick to what they like instead of spreading only their way of collecting etc on topics they don't have interest in.

As an example i know from myself i am not into guro genre cuz yeah it makes me feel uncomfortable but i am not going to join a discussion and tell them its weird or freaky whatever since it does not add anything. Or people joining a loli figure discussion and instead to listen/see what others have to say they just start judging those people. So those kind of people who judge i don't understand why they feel the right to go full white knight of judging others.

Like they say if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything ^_^ (criticism when asked is always good though )

But yeah i am kinda the same like you i am interested in multiple genre's and ways of collecting. Like by just listening/reading i understand the furry culture and kinda see the appeal. And like you said if it still aint nothing for you then you always can say it in a nice way instead making people feel judged in a bad way.
7 dias atrás
Chloe-tsundere The louise otaku
JeroenXP17 dias atrás#104010491I would never understand how someone makes a fuzz what has 0 impact on their own lives when another person especially a stranger has a different hobby or ways to do their hobby then their own. I am not sure if this has mainly to do with the younger generation which if i had someone made a fuzz about it which was rarely for me, it was mostly someone a lot younger then me. But i can't really judge just based on my own experience so yeah.
People need to grasp that if they don't like a certain thing that instead making a fuzz about it and trying to change someone that they just should stick to a community with the same thought process. I feel especially in the anime community that an open mind and respect is a valuable thing to have.
As long no one is forcing you to like something then let those people be. Its like for some people others are not allowed to have fun just because that certain person does not like it or understand it. I have 1 basic simple rule which is as long it does not hurt an actual person then let them be and respect those people.
Like as an example bronies, loli fans, futa etc etc you name it as long it doesn't hurt anyone let them be. If you don't have the capacity to have an open mind without making a fuzz about it then just stick to the communities you like and avoid them instead of forcing everyone to have the same taste/view whatever as you.
So yeah discussions = ok forcing everyone having the same taste is a big no.
Lets make the community welcome for every taste someone has, small or big collection or whatever genre ^_^


Yeah, as they say dont judge a book by its cover right? :) ask ask ask and dont judge :D and even when you do come to the conclusion it isnt your cup of tea, you can say that in a polite kind way ^^ instead of eww this is too pink or eww too crowded. It only makes the other feel bad and theres no reason to do it.

Hmm.. depends yeah if youre looking for the same types its best to join a certain club yes but if you do like the diversity (like me) thats a reason to stick around. :) i like seeing different collections while not wanting the same. It inspires me on what not to do or what to aim for or maybe change or maybe not haha. It can be seen as fun too ^^ i got my own experience with my mom, she told me ite your room and you can do what you like. If you want my opinion, i will give it. And i did ask her and it made me think and actually see a new way :) she said it in a civil way and how it COULD come across, meaning its not necessarily how I see it, but others could. Thats a good way of discussing things, from my pov as a collector/art appreciator/anime fan and someone who isnt into anime ^^ it was interesting and she never forced me to do something else. Same happened with some guys. Seeing my leatherish figs and some louises with whip they thought oh she must like bdsm and want us to do that. The moment it gave that impression, i explained why i collected them and they changed ^^ i like that you know. Dont fill in :)

And i totally agree about the rest, as long ss it isnt harmful, i just leave em be. If they want to be bronie, go ahead, i actually met a bronie.. and i kinda know why he is. I can get it now, doesnt mean i want to be one tho but it made me think and see their passion is similar to mine just expressed differently ^^ thats all there is.

TyjosAzari8 dias atrás#103978635At this point rewording is needed with the way I Blog and can totally understand your view.
These days what I pick up is what I find at a good deal [I can say I'm quitting then suddenly there's a good deal I can't pass up, as a long time collector that's my great weakness when those deals come up and the old random impulsiveness to pick something up]
There are times it feels like I may have to spend a bit more time wording my blogs almost like I need one of those mental proofreaders that goes through it and says "Instead, make it this instead of what you thought it'll go over easier with these folks."
Almost like I feel my brain wants to appoint some sort of political officer in charge of writing blogs/comments/tweets at times.


Glad youre open for someone else’s pov ^^ yeah maybe just go like ‘no hunting for today’ instead of using the word quitting :) cause quit means no new orders at all or a system where you stick to, meaning you lessened so much that its almost the same so a trade off so to say ^^ like i do.
What you do isnt quitting in my opinion and probably many, since youre tempted to buy again if theres a good deal. So its maybe hunting only for good deals? Perhaps. But its up to you on how to do your blogs in the end ^^
What helps me is reading it two times instead of posting right away :)
Well im a collector too, but i manage to resist that myself. I dont buy for thr good deal, i buy for the character and enjoyment:) that helped me. Cause otherwise i would end up with a stuffed house cause there are endless good deals haha. Unless i plan to resell and make a living out of it or something ^^
But if you like the way you collect, once again you do you :) and be happy about it :D And do let that shine through your blogs ^^
7 dias atrás
I would never understand how someone makes a fuzz what has 0 impact on their own lives when another person especially a stranger has a different hobby or ways to do their hobby then their own. I am not sure if this has mainly to do with the younger generation which if i had someone made a fuzz about it which was rarely for me, it was mostly someone a lot younger then me. But i can't really judge just based on my own experience so yeah.

People need to grasp that if they don't like a certain thing that instead making a fuzz about it and trying to change someone that they just should stick to a community with the same thought process. I feel especially in the anime community that an open mind and respect is a valuable thing to have.

As long no one is forcing you to like something then let those people be. Its like for some people others are not allowed to have fun just because that certain person does not like it or understand it. I have 1 basic simple rule which is as long it does not hurt an actual person then let them be and respect those people.

Like as an example bronies, loli fans, futa etc etc you name it as long it doesn't hurt anyone let them be. If you don't have the capacity to have an open mind without making a fuzz about it then just stick to the communities you like and avoid them instead of forcing everyone to have the same taste/view whatever as you.

So yeah discussions = ok forcing everyone having the same taste is a big no.

Lets make the community welcome for every taste someone has, small or big collection or whatever genre ^_^
7 dias atrás
Chloe-tsundere The louise otaku
buffoon8 dias atrás#103994743I always enjoy your articles and this one particularly.
The very definition of "hobby" is participation in something outside of your occupation that gives you pleasure.
If your hobby makes you happy, then you are succeeding at it. If your hobby no longer gives you pleasure, then find another that does.
And it never hurts to follow your Mother's advice, "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all".


Thats a good rule to go by, just browse on and say nothing if you really cant stand something or else try to give friendly advice which is constructive or keeping it open is what i do, so keep it open by simply asking why do you collect this way? :) for example.
Exactly, if its a hobby you find fun, just follow that. In the way you like it. Whether thats only 5 figures or 100s thats entirely up to said person ^^
Im glad you like my articles :) always good to hear my writing isnt for deadman ears haha


Heldrik8 dias atrás#103987793That was an interesting read. From a certain point of view, it reminds me of all those age-old "debates" on MFC regarding a certain category of figures that generally devolve into flame wars and monkeys flinging shit at each other. Good God can it be tiresome...
View spoilerHide spoilerYou know what I'm talking about, it starts with a ロ and ends with a リ.
One of my Golden Rules in life is "Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated". It's a simple rule, as old as time and the Lord, but an efficient one.
You can badmouth or hate me or my choices/hobbies behind my back, whatever, I ain't no saint, I also do this, nobody's perfect. As long as I don't know it, you're good, for ignorance is bliss.
But if you talk shit to me ad hominem, then brace yourself for I'll talk shit to you with a back, and it'll be heavy-handed.
I collect whatever figures the way I want it, and there's nothing you can do about it, and I think it should be the dominant mindest around here (after all, you collect figures mainly for yourself, not for others and their praise/approval), but that's wishful thinking.


Well regarding the last sentence, it seems people do look for approval a lot for whatever reasoning. Im curious why ^^ aside from still living with parents where they usually decide.
I, personally collect for myself and just that but I do use some ‘common sense’ by not having nudes in the main rooms, cause i dont want to force people to be confronted with that. Aside from that i just do what i want to ^^

As for the flamewars, well i can see where its coming from View spoilerHide spoiler originally loli did start after child porn got banned, child porn came t9 be in japan cause adult x adult was banned and later ok but had to be censored so they looked how to dodge it however im still at the point that its not leading anywhere as long as it isnt harmful why judge others? If you ask me i can perfectly explain why and how i like said items ^^ and its not like anything changes, all that changes is 2 people feeling bad. Gossiping is never a good thing in the first place even outside the hobby


yamtao8 dias atrás#103997278I totally agree! I'm a minimalist myself. I just don't understand how someone don't understand that others can have interests and hobbies outside of figure collection haha.

Yeah usually its filled in as must be a boring person, but im sure you can perfectly explain your lifestyle and why and how ^^ no one forced you and you dont need stuff to be a fun person, even if im not a minimalist some did inspire me actually! Im downsizing as i also realised that less stuff is also good enough. But i cant ever live fully minimalistic as i got craft hobbies (and cant part with louises) haha but there are some great advices, one can learn from anothers pov even if you wont follow the same :)
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Chloe-tsundere The louise otaku
SebastianLover7 dias atrás#104001046I don't think it's necessarily that people think you can't have interests outside of collecting, it's more a stereotype of minimalism that you're a person who doesn't like fun things. People assume you're actively denying yourself pleasurable things instead of just preferring to not have stuff. I get similar kinds of judgments about my diet because I eat simple lunches at work so I'm seen as someone who can't/doesn't cook or eat "real" food. They assume I'm forcing myself on some minimalistic diet but no, I just happen to actually enjoy nuts and fresh raw vegetables lol and I wish people didn't feel the need to comment on my eating habits just because it's not "normal". People just have a hard time grasping that other people can have different lifestyles from them and actually derive pleasure from it.

We shouldnt fill in for the other side either :) im sure they can explain why they think minimalists arent fun and minimalist just explained their vision. We should be open for both sides :)
But might be a good point, maybe they think people are forced but judging by one comment here it didnt seem related to that ^^ but maybe theres a different reason ;)
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yamtao8 dias atrás#103997278I totally agree! I'm a minimalist myself. I just don't understand how someone don't understand that others can have interests and hobbies outside of figure collection haha.

I don't think it's necessarily that people think you can't have interests outside of collecting, it's more a stereotype of minimalism that you're a person who doesn't like fun things. People assume you're actively denying yourself pleasurable things instead of just preferring to not have stuff. I get similar kinds of judgments about my diet because I eat simple lunches at work so I'm seen as someone who can't/doesn't cook or eat "real" food. They assume I'm forcing myself on some minimalistic diet but no, I just happen to actually enjoy nuts and fresh raw vegetables lol and I wish people didn't feel the need to comment on my eating habits just because it's not "normal". People just have a hard time grasping that other people can have different lifestyles from them and actually derive pleasure from it.
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Chloe-tsundere8 dias atrás#103977963Maybe ask a minimalist yourself is the best way:) but..
From my view, stuff doesnt equal interests. You can for example love diving but dont need diver equipment to show that off. You can love anime without collecting the figures or merch, you can love outdoor walks and dont need anything in your room to express that, you can love art but dont need 100s or simply collect digital art or love travelling but dont need souvenirs etc :)
See...? Many ways to be a minimalist but still have plenty of fun hobbies. Its cool that we do love to express it in many ways, but not everyone does that with items ;)
I totally agree! I'm a minimalist myself. I just don't understand how someone don't understand that others can have interests and hobbies outside of figure collection haha.
8 dias atrás
Chloe-tsundere The louise otaku
Valestein38 dias atrás#103978535Thanks for articulating something that I could never properly explain.
I'm sort of the "normie" in my anime friend group. Some of them say, "You never shut up about Gundam G, Code Geass, Full Metal Alchemist, Mob Psycho, and Vinland Saga but you don't have any figures of them!"
Well, that's the thing! Doesn't mean I enjoy them, it doesn't mean I'm obligated to have merch of them. Some characters look cool in 3D, others don't.
Besides that, I'm an extremely picky collector anyway. When I buy a figure, it's not just because it's Saber or Lelouch but as a product itself. Do the proportions "look good"? Are the colors pleasing to the eye? How's the detailing work? "Yeah, that pose is okay but..". Does it look good to pose or display? Maybe it has an x-factor to it. There's a ridiculous amount of filters that a figure goes through before I buy it.
As for other's preferences, I'll just echo what some posters have already said: People should just collect what they like.


No problem at all, im glad i am helping this way. Nice way of collecting too and indeed doesnt make you less a fan. If i bought a fig of everything i liked at that moment or saw then i end up a hoarder leaving no living space. So be proud in your way of collecting :) ! And whats a normie anyways, who defines that...
I agree some simply didnt turn out great in 3d :) you might as well print art if you feel like it or passionatly talk about it, im sure ppl see your passion that way too

Benawi8 dias atrás#103978839A principle of a good collection(defined by myself)
- Have core collections(figures that have connection to each other ex: same character/ same series/same artist/same theme) within your collection.Ideally, one look of your whole collection I could know GENERALLY what you are trying to convey.
- Quality over quantity(try to get best example of condition/quality ex : not hording on prize figures)
- A limited number of figures(having limitations define what YOUR collection is), collect the numbers that you are comfortable with.


Well its not really what its about haha but thanks for sharing your way of collecting :) its good to have set rules to not let it get out of hand by your own vision ^^
As long as your comfortable with the way you collect and the amount you own all is good ^^
8 dias atrás
I always enjoy your articles and this one particularly.

The very definition of "hobby" is participation in something outside of your occupation that gives you pleasure.

If your hobby makes you happy, then you are succeeding at it. If your hobby no longer gives you pleasure, then find another that does.

And it never hurts to follow your Mother's advice, "If you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all".
8 dias atrás
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